by Carjamin Scott on February 9, 2020 at 9:21 p.m. CST

When you aim high, failure is inevitable; only grit and resilience can combat it. Robert F. Kennedy said, “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve.” Our lowest moments can propel us forward. We must fail, it is just as important as success.

People with grit and resilience consistently get things done no matter the obstacles in their way. They are malleable and have the emotional strength to endure tough times. When faced with difficulty, they learn from it quickly and become stronger as a result of it. Improve your grit and resilience with these five steps to overcome failure.

1. Accept the failure.

Acceptance is the first step to recovery. It happened, now what? In order to move on, you have to own it. When you dismiss your failures, you repeat them. Take time to assess the situation, learn from it, and heal.

2. Forgive yourself and others.

Now is not the time to play the blame game. Stop blaming others for what happened and stop blaming yourself. Maya Angelou said, “It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Forgive everybody.” Bitterness and resentment are heavy; forgiveness is light. Let go of what happened to move forward.

3. Stop fighting.

It’s time to surrender. Psalm 110:1 reads, “Sit at my right hand until I make your enemies a footstool at your feet.” When you are in relationship with the Lord, he will use your enemies to improve your situation. Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy. Don’t be a footstool, you will hold yourself back. And there is no reason to fight enemies, it is a waste of time. True believers know that God will intercede. Love yourself and love others.

4. Practice and understand grace.

There are many definitions of grace. I define grace as acting in kindness, mercy, and compassion towards myself and others even when it isn’t deserved. It’s important to give and receive grace after a failure. Let grace restore you. Try it and watch what happens.

5. Do it for someone else.

If you can’t get back up after a failure, get back up for someone else. You never know who is watching you and who your story is impacting. So get up and keep going. Henry Ford said, “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”

Never underestimate the power of failure. Let it help you build confidence and toughness. Next time, you will try harder and dream bigger. You’ve got this!

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by Carjamin Scott on December 29, 2019 at 3:30 p.m. CST

The year 2020 marks the beginning of a new decade. All of our wins, losses, and whatever was in between have brought us to this moment in time and it is fitting that we reflect on what we learned. As for myself, I did a lot and therefore learned a lot. I learned that, as I celebrate my wins do it with grace; and, as I deal with my losses do it with gratitude. I recognized the value of humility.

The Oxford dictionary defines humility as a modest view of ones importance. The Bible says that God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble, “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God” Micah 6:8.

As I walk into 2020, I’m focused on seven attributes of humility to carry with me.

1. Humility requires gratitude.

You cannot be unhappy and grateful at the same time. I survived troublesome times by choosing gratefulness instead of sadness. When bad times happen, which they happen to all of us, it’s important to go through those moments and learn from them.

2. Humility requires patience.

Your right now is not your forever. If you are always wanting more, expecting more, looking for more then you are unable to appreciate what you have in this moment right now. When the time is right it will happen.

3. Humility encourages you to believe in yourself.

Being humble means free from pride and arrogance, not confidence. Confidence is trusting in your abilities. Humility requires that you trust yourself and what you have to offer. It motivates you to stay in your own lane and take stock in your own abilities instead of comparing yourself to others. CS Lewis said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.”

4. Humility is letting your light shine.

Only light can combat darkness. When you let your light shine, you allow others to do the same. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that,” Dr. Martin Luther King. What is your light? Is it artistry, science, writing, engineering, caretaking, business ownership? Whatever it is, do it to the best of your ability.

5. Humility will require you to love.

Love one another. Put others first. Humility is not self serving. It is concerned with the welfare of everyone. It is fair and just. A humble person is not vain, argumentative, or boastful. Humility is love. It is admitting faults, remaining coachable, constant growth and forgiveness.

6. Humility is faithful.

When you are humble, you are loyal. You are faithful to your calling. You see situations differently. You understand that faithfulness requires sacrifice. You are willing to do what it takes to complete your purpose.

7. Humility is rewarding.

When you are humble, you will be rewarded. “For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted,” Luke 14:11. There is nothing that God wants more than for us to trust him. Walk humbly with Him and you will be rewarded.

I pray that you have a blessed New Year and I thank you for taking the time to read this message. Hallelujah, God is good.

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by Carjamin Scott on October 16, 2019 at 1:30 p.m. CST

Level up season has arrived and if there is something that you have been working toward or waiting on, I am here to let you know that you are not reading this post by accident. Just to be sure that this message has been delivered to the right person, I have created a list of the eight signs to alert you that you are leveling up.

1. You are starting to act on the plans that you made.

Do you remember those goals that you wrote down? Whatever stopped you from accomplishing those goals before cannot stop you any longer. Now, you are ready to do whatever it takes to make them come to fruition. You realize that everything you need to make it happen is right in front of you.

2. Your situation is shifting from the familiar to the unknown. 

You are now taking action to make your dreams a reality. The territory is uncharted and unfamiliar; but, you are willing to pave your own road. You are excited about the uncertainty and see it as an opportunity to do what you once thought was impossible.

3. Your relationships are changing and you begin to lose meaningless ones. 

New people are coming into your life who believe in you and your vision. They want to see you do well and want to support your cause. Old relationships are ending so that new relationships can arrive. You have learned from the past and have created boundaries to ensure that partnerships are mutual and fulfilling.

4. You start envisioning your new life.

You can finally see the end of the tunnel. At one time, you had no idea of how you were going to make things work. Now, you know what it is going to take to reach your goals and you are willing to put in the work to make it happen. You know what the end result will be and you are excited to imagine it come to life.

5. You are no longer afraid of anything. 

They say, fear is: false evidence appearing real. Your fear is gone and you have nothing to lose. You are ready to put yourself out there and do whatever it takes to get it done. They also say, insanity is: doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. You are ready to do something different to get something different.

6. You are more courageous than ever before and open to trying new things. 

You have a renewed sense of energy and are courageous enough to try new things. With your new relationships, you are going to new places and learning new things. Since your fear is gone, you do not mind making and learning from mistakes. You know that it is insane to continue doing things the way you used to. So, it is easy for you to change.

7. You own who you are and what you can accomplish. 

Everything you have learned from the past has prepared you for this moment. You know what you bring to the table; so, you are ready for a seat or you are prepared to buy your own table. You own exactly who you are and what you can do.

8. Your failures were put on display for others to see.

Your story will inspire others to level up. The world will watch your setbacks propel your comeback. Everyone will witness how everything you’ve gone through has strengthened you for this moment. You will finally understand why it all happened this way and you will share what you learned with others.

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